Maureen Perkins MEd Counselling

Counselling or Conflict?

Do you need counselling

All relationships go through difficult times - it's how you handle those times that makes the difference between staying together and splitting.

When is the right time for counselling?

When problems go on for too long, bitterness and resentment can build up and the fear of being hurt blocks out any chance of change.

If you're experiencing any of the following, consider Counselling:

When you talk to your partner, it feels as though you're hitting a brick wall.

Your conversations just go round and round in never-ending circles.

After you've talked, you feel frustrated and confused.

You can't talk for more than a few minutes without it turning into a shouting match.

You're afraid that if you bring up a certain subject, things will get even worse.

There's nothing left to say. The children are being affected.

Is Counselling best together or alone?

Attending together works best. Often, if one person makes the decision to give counselling a try, the partner will decide to go too.

If your partner refuses to join you, there are lots of things counselling can help you sort out on your own. There may be changes you can make alone that will have a positive impact on your relationship.

What happens in couples counselling?

It depends on the needs of the couple, however it's likely that you will work through the following steps:

Exploring your story - the nature of the problems and what impact they're having on you and your relationship.

Understanding your story - why you're struggling with these problems and the things that may be preventing you from overcoming them.

Rewriting your story - finding the strengths and resources to resolve your difficulties, or at least make them more bearable.

What if things don't work out?

If you do decide to separate, counselling can help you to plan your future in a constructive way, or come to amicable agreements about the children. Call 01902 842491 if you would like to discuss how counselling might help you.

Useful Websites for Couples.

BBC - Relationships

Relate - The Relationship People

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